PhD girl - after action report

I should be working right now, but I need to update this blog. a lot has happened in the last 3 months. Well maybe not, but to me it is a lot. First update is PhD girl.

So far all my dates have manifested through eHarmony. If you are willing to pay the premium, eHarmony is great for lazy people. They give a list of matches every couple of days or so. You peruse through them and initiate communication if you feel so inclined, or close the match. No searching, no nothing. There are 3 stages of 'guided' communication before you start 'open' communication aka emails. And so it goes.

PhD girl and I started talking on the phone within a week of the initial match. Smart girl with a southern accent, I was hooked. We seemed to hit it off well. First 'sorta' date was a movie. We were supposed to meet at the theaters, but she went out with school mates and was buzzed. I ended up picking her up, which I didn't mind, but still some weird guy you've known for less than a couple weeks is picking your drunk ass up? Yeah, not so smart. Anyhow, she sleeps through the movie. I honestly don't care, I had wanted to see the movie regardless ('500 days of Summer' good flick). I take her home.

Next day I email her to see if she wanted to do something that weekend. She says yes and we have a couple more phone calls, all good, though she seems very forward about sex, the types of guys she goes for (Doesn't really describe me, I suspect I'm too short for her), etc. I don't mind the sex talk but it is looking less and less likely we will be having any by the tone of the conversations.

Second date is to a small, out of the way, hole in the wall burger joint about 1.5 hours outside of town. I don't remember the name, but the burgers were decent. Good conversation on the way up. Suspicions of this going nowhere are confirmed, more sex talk (man if only she knew how long it had been since I last had sex), more talk of us being friends, etc. Desert was ok, drive back was a bit more difficult. She mentioned something about soldiers being murders (she knew my brother served in the Armed Forces) and she lost me completely at that point. Hard to be friends with someone with those view points, call me closed minded. Dropped her off, she couldn't get out of the car quickly enough.

Lessons Learned:
1) Early dates should not involve long car rides. Long car rides are a double edged sword. It can be a great time getting to know someone but once you know them, you may not want to be around them much longer. That and you really ought to spend more time at the destination doing something fun than more time in the car getting there.
2) If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's probably a liberal. Don't discuss politics on early on. She brought it up and I finished it. We were diametrically opposed in our beliefs. This only made the car ride longer (see point #1)
3) Please don't obsess over sex, especially if you don't plan on having any with me.

Over all it was a nice break from having to play the dating game. Since I went into this with the mindset of a friend date (established by previous phone calls) I didn't really feel I was risking anything. Still I was a bit nervous and couldn't think of anything fun and cheap to do. I need to work on that.